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Is it impossible for the two to coexist?

Reblogging because this totally won’t fit in a reply. :P

But yeah, they can totally coexist! I think most people’s aversion to the whole “Self-respect” deal is that that mindset often goes hand-in-hand with stuff like, “I don’t sleep around/wear revealing clothing/talk about my sex life because I have self respect.” Which kind of implies that people who DO do those things don’t have self respect, which you and I know is just not true.

The issue, I think, is that a lot of people who have this “Self respect” don’t realize that there is more than one way to respect yourself, and that just because someone else has a different approach toward their personal life doesn’t mean that they have low self esteem or no self respect.

Or at least, that’s why I tend to side-eye people who preach the whole “self respect” thing. Because they USUALLY are less concerned with actual self respect - which basically entails staying true to your own needs and desires - and are more concerned with condemning other lifestyles/choices, and trying to place their OWN lifestyles on a pedestal.

But yeah.

I totally agree. Self respect and sex-positivity are 100% compatible. In fact, I’d argue that you can’t have sex positivity WITHOUT some manifestation of self respect.

That was a rhetorical question, Ariel.

Lololol. I love you. <3

Lol! I know it was rhetoricallllll. It was just a really interesting topic that I figured could merit some discussion. So I discussed. :P loool.

Ohhhh, gotcha. I thought you were like, “Aw, poor Randi doesn’t understand. Let me explain.”